Hey you beautiful followers! 

Just thought I’d give you a quick update on what’s been going on with me!

Basically the boyfriend and me have just been having an amazing time, enjoying each others company. He’s been living with me for the last two weeks and its been wonderful. 

There have been moments though when we’ve had to talk about my struggles, as I’ve started having very severe panic attacks, something that I’ve never had before and my god is it horrible. 

Basically every time I have one now it mimics heart attack symptoms and its terrifying! But the boyfriend seems to have this magic ability to just talk me out of them! 

And whilst I am the happiest I’ve ever been in my life right now, it doesn’t stop the fact that I have BPD and Clinical Depression, that is all still there, it never really goes away. 

SO as always life continues to be a battle, something that I have to fight for the difference is, I now have the strength and the will, because I have something to keep fighting for! 

So last night myself and the boyf were discussing one thing you would tell your child as a piece of life advise. 

His was: Don’t ever take anyone at face value. Someone might seem amazing and trustworthy and loyal when they could be the ones to break your heart. Where as the ones who don’t appear to be anything could turn out to be your everything. 

In true mental health blogger style mine was…. 

Mine: Its not about having to stay standing, its about finding the strength to know you can pick yourself up when you fall. 

So now I pose the question to you beautiful followers. 

If you could tell a child or younger generation one thing, what would it be?

dbnco asked: My friend is seeing her first psych today for anxiety and I, as a supportive friend who has spent close to a decade with a couple of clinically diagnose anxiety disorders, have prepared a little 'care package' for her. Full of a little meditation book, chocolates, bath bombs, hand sanitiser, and stuff to relax and feel better with. I think it's so important within our mental health communities to treat others like you'd like to be treated. I hope it helps her feel supported!

This sounds amazing! I’m gonna go make care packages for all my friends who are struggling :-)

You’re friend is lucky to have you!

Stay strong
Abz xxx

Anonymous asked: Would you say that the fact that I self-harm classifies me as mentally ill?

Hi Anon, 

I hope you’re doing okay. 

Right so firstly I am not a Doctor so I can’t diagnose you with anything, however this is how I see it. 

“Self-harm is a way of expressing very deep distress. Often, people don’t know why they self-harm. It’s a means of communicating what can’t be put into words or even into thoughts and has been described as an inner scream. Afterwards, people feel better able to cope with life again, for a while.” (mind.org)

People self-harm for all manor of different reasons, but from what I’m understanding through doing a little research to answer your question, self-harming doesn’t automatically mean you are mentally ill. In order to determine that you would have to look at why you self-harm. 

You can get help to stop self-harming in lots of different ways, look into local groups in your area, if you’re at school maybe go to your school nurse or simply go to your Doctor. 

I am more than happy to discuss this further with you, if you would like about why you’re self-harming and suggest anything I can that may help, if you want to message me again, on or off anon, just identify yourself has this anon. 

I wish you an easy recovery and think that simply reaching out to this blog is a really positive sign. 

Stay strong, 

Abz <3 

Anonymous asked: how do you tell a doctor you think you have a mental health problem? my doctor only seems to understand and know about depression x

Hi anon,

It can be hard but I think you just need to say “look I have these problems or issue, I feel these things etc I need your help” at the end of the day your doctor is there to help you with your medical problems. You could also do some research into what services there are in your area for example such as mental health support services or social workers. I don’t know where you are in the world but I know in the uk for example you have the right to social service workers to help you access mental health services.
I hope this helps if you want to talk a bit more about what you’re suffering with I may be able to give you some more specific answers.
Stay strong Hun,
Abz